I have worked with children with special needs for many years, first as a paraprofessional and later as a special education teacher. I also have autism and ADHD myself, and write a blog about my experiences as an adult with special needs. Animals are a passion of mine. I volunteer at a farm animal sanctuary. I also have a dog, a cat, and four fish of my own. I hope to someday add some pigs and goats to my tribe.
I have loved writing since I was a small child. I have written several novels and children's books that are available on Amazon. I have recently decided to dedicate more of my time to writing, and am working towards writing full time.
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The Autistic Dude's Guide To Getting A Girlfriend Or Boyfriend
While I was at autism camp, I noticed a common theme among many of the guys between the ages of 15 and 50. They were hoping to find a girlfriend. They weren't particularly picky about potential girlfriends. Basically, there qualifications were, the person had to be female and somewhat in their own age group. I also noticed that they seemed to be going about it all wrong. I decided to write a a guide to help autistic guys find a girlfriend, or boyfriend. This will be the first part of a series.
First, a full disclaimer. I am, in no way, an expert at dating or relationships. In fact, I have zero interest in dating or relationships myself. However, I am very observant, and I've been around a lot of different people from all walks of life. My advice is just that...advice...and not a guarantee that everyone who follows it will get a girlfriend or boyfriend.
Second, I realize that some autistic guys are gay. I am going to try to use gender neutral terminology, instead of writing "girlfriend or boyfriend" over and over again. I'll just say "person" or "significant other."
Now, my first piece of advice for guys is this...work on your own self and your life. While there are people out there who want to be in a relationship where they will "fix" or "save" their significant other, most people do not want their significant other to be so dependent on them for happiness. If you are just sitting around, day after day, waiting for that special guy or girl to come along, this may be your first problem. Your potential significant other will be more attracted to you if they see that you already have a full life.
Make a list of the things that make you happy and the things you enjoy doing. Add to the list some things that you might enjoy trying. If you are having trouble thinking of things, here is a list of possibilities you could explore:
Pick up a hobby or two, do more of what you enjoy, and try to give yourself a life where you are happy, with or without a significant other.
Also, if what you really enjoy doing is staying home and watching movies or playing video games, that is okay...but make sure that you are doing it because it really makes you happy, not because you can't think of anything better to do.
One warning though...if you are anything like me, once you find something you really enjoy doing, it is very hard to think about anything else. If you still do want to find a significant other, be sure to leave some space in your new, happy life for them! They will want you to be able to spend time with them, listen to them, and pay attention to their interests, as well!